Backing out of self-hosting Mastodon

People love to mention how easy it is to host your own fediverse server, with one of the easiest options being a Masto.host subscription for around $8/month. What people usually don’t mention is that Mastodon, being pretty janky software, has a problem with rapidly escalating storage use because of the way its caching is designed (or like… not very designed). Even a single-user instance that is not particularly active will need to keep leveling up to more expensive subscription tiers forever purely due to this passive cache accumulation. There is no real way to solve it without manually removing things from the database, which you don’t have access to do through managed hosting and which also sounds way too much like IT maintenance for me to enjoy.

So although it was fun for a year or two, I’m working towards winding down little friendhole.social before I find myself at some diamond elite level of monthly hosting plans. I’ll migrate my account somewhere else; the fediverse is janky but it’s also such a relief to chat with actual humans without algorithms and ads everywhere.

Since there is no way to migrate Mastodon posts to a different server (again with the jankiness), I’m going to start posting some old faves here with their original posting dates, just for my own archival enjoyment. The tag to find them is toots.

In praise of group appointments

One last thought from my pacing webinar tonight — group healthcare appointments are awesome and I don’t think most people realize that until they try one.

The Long Covid Clinic and the BC-CLMF both use group appointments and they have really won me over. You get everything you need, PLUS other people ask questions you didn’t think of, forgot, or were too shy to ask. People also ask about things that haven’t happened to you yet so you can be prepared. You usually get 60+ minutes too! Big fan

Party decor x occupational therapy

Gosh i love occupational therapists. I’m at a webinar about pacing through summertime, and this OT just shared a “success story” from a client who got a banner for a party they hosted. Instead of saying “happy birthday” the banner said “please leave by 9pm”.

This is the same OT who apologized for not being able to put someone in a coma to reset their pain responses. A queen.

Little free library

An idea came to me during a conversation about World Goth Day (May 22) and now I can’t stop thinking about how fun and funny it would be to set up a little free library for goth nonsense in a secret location in a cemetery. Swap your unwanted candles, black nail polish, horror novels, goblets, etc.

Feels inappropriate to do in real life because all the local cemeteries are still active and i don’t want to intrude on the recently bereaved.

But i daydream (classic goth pastime).

Free Zine: Let’s Make an Herbal Pain-Relief Salve!

Cover of a zine. 

Let's make an... Herbal Pain Relief Salve!

Pen drawing of a small cosmetic jar labelled "hops, yarrow + rosemary" surrounded by sparkles.

by sarah
PearlOfCivilization.net
may 2026

I make bean-less zines pretty regularly but I rarely post them here. Should I start? Let’s try it.

This zine has instructions for making the herbal pain-relief salve I use for endometriosis and ovarian cyst pain, and that I have been sharing with friends and fam since December. It provides strong and immediate but not very long-lasting pain relief for when you need a break. Salve testers found strong relief from pain due to: frozen shoulder, tendonitis, headaches, arthritis, and more. It’s strong!

If you try it out, I would love to hear how it works or doesn’t for you. (Beep me on Mastodon?) If you’re in pain, I hope it eases one way or another <3

Free pain salve zine:

P.S., if you want to try this out before committing to the multi-week process of making a salve from scratch, I should mention that a tincture works too. More people have those around, or an herb shop might have a sample of hops tincture and let you try a drop or two to see what it does for you. The blend is stronger, but hops is the main player. If you know me in person, just ask and I will give you some salve.